Wish
I enjoy being a stay-at-home mom. I love it so much that I have stopped caring what people think of this profession long ago. The not-so-nice words that come my way just don’t, won’t, can’t offend me anymore.
I admit, though, that there is a bit of problem with this work - the dwindling of my social life, particularly on weekdays. This is the era where most mothers are working mothers. My neighbors are stay-at-home dads as old as my father, and while most of them are nice people, I still long for the company of a girl friend.
I’m not the sort who wants to be surrounded by friends 24/7, but I do wish to have a friend nearby.
I live in a faraway corner of Metro Manila, so that complicates things. I have to cross at least two cities to meet my old friends, and those who are minutes away from here are in work places hours away. Or they now live in another time zone.
I date many of my friends on YM, but there’s nothing like being able to hear the slap of high-fives and each other’s laughter instead of smileys.
So I prayed. Lord, You know how much I want a girl friend who is just nearby. I appreciate all my friends, old and new, and from all walks of life, but I guess it’s time for a new girl friend.
Can my girl friend be a fellow wife and mom? Can we have parallel views on most things in life? Can she be at least 30 years old, as I tend to pour my soul on someone who once used a Spraynet and sported the Cobra or the Rooster look.
She should be able to at least respect my career of choice, as I don’t like to find myself on the defensive over something I love. It would be a bonus if she is a stay-at-home mom too, but it’s not necessary.
I may not always be available to meet her, but arranging for an afternoon coffee date or a dinner date or a salon date anytime we want to meet should be easy, quick and hassle free.
And she should be available on weekdays as I’m busier on weekends and I tend to reserve it for get-togethers with my family and old friends and with those who are far away.
Can she please be fun? Can she find amusement over small things? Can she allow me to be my quirky self? Can she please find it in her heart to just laugh at my oddities?I hope she’s a little bit odd herself, but sweet and warm, like home.
Then the Lord said, Just one girlfriend?! I’ll give you six.
And that’s just the first batch.
julie:
Aw, this is so sweet, Cess
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6 June 2008, 12:45 pmchateau a.k.a. imom:
Aww, Cess! This post is so touching, made me tear all over! I’m honored to be part of your answered wish. I look forward to more dinner dates, salon dates, coffee dates, picnics and kiddie parties. I am glad I have you and the other girls too. Hugs!
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6 June 2008, 2:21 pmCookie:
Lady Cess!! This is so touching..I swear. As SAHMs, the first thing to suffer is really our social lives. But its really just part of the adjustment. After things are put into proper perspective, its really up to us to make the most of the time we have on our hands. And may I say, meeting you gals is a blessing. SAHMs rule..hehehe :p
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6 June 2008, 2:55 pmsoloops:
Aww, na touch ako dito.
I am a mom who works 6 days a week ms. Cess and my wish, the same as yours, was answered the other day when I met 3 blogger-friends over lunch.
Though they are very much younger than me, it felt great making new friends again. Indeed, there is nothing better than a girl friend.
I’d love to be added to your “friends list” too.
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6 June 2008, 3:52 pmsoloops:
Ooops, did I mention that I too belong to the generation of spraynet and shoulder pads?
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6 June 2008, 3:53 pmLynn:
Galing-galing naman ng post. See you later, Cess.
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6 June 2008, 4:02 pmRach (Heart of Rachel):
This is a great post Cess. Kahit malayo ako at di parating available, add me din to your head count ha. Sama ako sa next batch. *smiles*
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6 June 2008, 5:07 pmchesca (exskindiver):
if i lived in manila, i hope i would have been counted in too.
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6 June 2008, 6:01 pmBambi:
ah yes, girlfriends are a must and you should never run out of them (^_^) good for you!
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6 June 2008, 7:29 pmfeng:
oh Cess, how touching this post is. look at what Blogging has brought us—girlfriends in real life. you know, sometimes I had my share of blogging downtimes, but with you and the rest of our Mommy friends always there to cheer me up, no doubt I’ve kept my sanity to normal levels.;)
“…someone who once used a Spraynet and sported the Cobra or the Rooster look” haha, those were the days. ang tindi mo Cess, naalala mo pa ha.
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6 June 2008, 8:51 pmrHo:
see?? at tlgang binigay ang mas marami pa sa hinihingi mo. gudlak sa mga new found friends mo!! enjoy kayo…
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6 June 2008, 9:36 pmMari:
God is generous. Treasure the gifts.
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8 June 2008, 1:11 pmRowena:
Hi Cess (friendship), such a touching post. Am honored to be your friend. Good thing I’ve read your summer post last year re: the most sought after iced tea…that led me to know you more girl. Like you, I feel so blessed to have known you and other mommy-bloggers. Now, am not a bored SAHM anymore….
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11 June 2008, 10:11 pmannamanila:
Muntik na akong mag-apply. Kasi, I am more than 30, still uses spray net, and willing to try the cobra look whatever that means. Ay, filled up na pala. And by people I know and love. Lucky all of you. God bless the friendship.
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14 June 2008, 12:48 amMommyBa:
This is a touching post. Sana kasama din ako dyan sa list mo
They all look beautiful inside and out.
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