His Next House with Ms. Right
After confirming with both sets of grandparents that Daddy and I used to live with them, my son deduced that when he’s all grown up, he would live in his “next house.”
“Just like you Mom. When you became a grown up, you got out of Lolo’s house and you live in this house, your next house.”
“It’s like this, “ I had to explain. ”First, I went to school. Grade school, then high school, and then college. When I finished college, I had a job. And then I met Daddy, and we got married. And then, we lived in this house.”
I showed him our wedding photo on the wall. “That’s me and Daddy getting married.”
“So when I’m married, I can live in my next house,” he said.
It felt a little weird hearing my 6-year old son talk about marrying and leaving our nest, but I answered anyway. “Yes anak, you will live in your next house when you’re married to a special woman.”
He was quiet for a while, I could almost hear the little wheels in his head.
This kind of talk felt like it arrived a little too soon, but there could be no turning back. I swallowed hard and took that moment to make him see a bit of what we, Mom and Dad, are hoping for his future.
In short, I felt compelled to describe the “special woman,” our future daughter-in-law, in little boy’s terms.
“The woman you should marry should be nice.”
“Yes,” he agreed with a vigorous nod.
“Has good manners …. studies her lessons…. goes to church…”
“And pretty, ” he emphasized.
Ok, so he wants the future Ms. Right to have breeding, brains AND don’t forget, beauty. After all, my son is looking for someone like Mom, ehem ehem.
chesca (exkindiver):
hi cess,
that music is pretty!
yes just like you–kaya nga yan na yan ang hinahanap ng anak mo…
LC: thanks chesca ,i love the song too:) hay, i’m beginning to look at little girls my son’s age in a different light already. like at the back of my mind i’m asking, ikaw ba ang destiny ng anak ko? hahaha!
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8 April 2008, 1:43 amjulie:
I have had this discussion with Julian too. That once he is all grown, he will have his own house and live with his wife, just like us. But of course, he has to finish studying first. I found out that he is not quite ready yet to embrace the idea.
LC: buti pa ikaw, julian is not ready. apparently, my son is, waaa!
hay, pero ganyan talaga ang buhay diba. we’re teaching our children now so they’ll be capable of facing the world when they’ve grown and ready to leave the comforts of their first home.
haaay.
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8 April 2008, 8:45 amnona:
That was a cute but honest convi with your son, hay…naalala ko rin yung mga questions ng kid ko like “paano daw nagkakaroon ng baby sa tummy?”
LC: papunta na rin kami doon nona
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8 April 2008, 1:07 pmrems:
…parang kelangan mo ng 1 baso ng malamig na tubig. hehehhe! medyo nagsikip ba and dibdib mo?
LC: oo naman! pero wala naman akong choice kundi sagutin
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8 April 2008, 1:55 pmZherwin:
my nephews as young as 5 and 6 are talking about their supposed girlfriend/s in school like they know what they’re talking about. maybe the young ones are really maturing early.
LC: oo nga zherwin, i noticed that too. parents have to be extra-vigilant
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8 April 2008, 3:51 pmraqgold:
my little MC wants to get married, too
but now that she plans to stay in Pinas, nalilito ngayon sya kung kanino sya papakasal kasi andito daw sa germany yung boyfriend nya, hahaha
LC: hahaha! well if the boyfriend really loves her…. hahaha! ina-analyze pa talaga!
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8 April 2008, 4:33 pmfeng:
waaahhhh, bigla tuloy akong napaisip. ang anak ko kasi, parang chickboy. daming crush na girls sa school. eh naku, wag naman sana akong hiritan muna ng gaya ng gusto ni Ipan. waaaahhhh.
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8 April 2008, 6:45 pmKongkong622:
Kids talaga these days…they get these ideas pretty early. Gaby is on to her 3rd future husband and Adi is now on her 1st…hahaha
Eto ka, 2 days ago Gaby was asking her Dad if she could have her period already so she could use the pampers (sanitary napkin) I was using too
I think most guys really have this thing about finding a woman that has a little bit of their moms in them.
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8 April 2008, 8:48 pmjho:
sniff, sniff. wah! matanda na ba tayo? he’s only six! sniff, sniff.
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9 April 2008, 5:58 amtikey:
Oh why! to early bird ata si Baby mo! heheh! parang diko ma explain ang nararamdaman ko ah! ahah!
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9 April 2008, 9:24 amWenchie:
Hello Cess, katuwa naman your kwentuhan. Siempre gusto nya like Mommy, pretty din di ba….he he. Si Pio ko, Mama’s boy na talaga. He once told me even if he’s married na, he will still stay in our home and sleep in our bed, ha ha. Kawawa naman my future daughter-in law.
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9 April 2008, 9:57 amwendy:
Natuwa naman ako sa conversation ninyo ng anak mo… ang cute!
Ms. Right… like mommy — definitely!
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10 April 2008, 11:03 amev:
i remember my conversation with my best friend telling me that her 6-year-old son already knows how to describe a sexy woman. wheww! kakatuwa ang curiosity ang mga kuting pero thinking about them leaving their parents when they get married in the future, parang “there’s a lump in my throat ang drama natin nito” as parent..you know, the sad realization about letting go.
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10 April 2008, 8:03 pmMommyBa:
I can’t breathe when Basti talks about getting married. Oh my, for his age? ‘Di ko pa carry na yun ang pinag-uusapan. LOL!
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11 April 2008, 2:18 pmRach (Heart of Rachel):
That’s a nice conversation. Syempre mataas ang standards kasi he’s thinking of someone like you. Kakatuwa when kids want to jump ahead and start their future.
Cess, may award ako sayo.
Take care.
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11 April 2008, 3:30 pmfeng:
hi Cess. nakakatuwa ang thread of comments dito. don’t we all want our babies to stop growing for a while? heehee.
anyway, I’ve got a tag for you. hope you can play along.
http://fengguillermobrum.com/2008/04/11/should-dreams-have-a-deadline/
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