wer r u?
This young man said he is currently thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend. He said the girl would often send him text message asking him where he is.
Since the girl always sends the messages during office hours, he believes she should have known he is at work. She shouldn’t be sending such messages anymore because the answer is quite obvious and it causes him to lose focus on his work.
My mom and I groaned at this guy, because as a boyfriend we feel he is, well, less than ideal. I told him I have been texting my husband to tell me his whereabouts since we acquired cell phones, not because I am suspicious of him but because I want to be assured that he is safe. Most of all, naglalambing lang.
My mom told him straight to leave the girl and let her find someone else who deserves her attention. Hindi ka pa seryoso dyan she said.
This reminds me of another friend who said that she rarely, if ever, sends text messages to her husband that are somewhere along the lines of where are you. She feels it means lack of trust.
I guess it all depends on our significant others’ temperament. My husband is patient enough to respond or even call back. Or perhaps, he has accepted that part of me, heehee. There may be others who feel it is unnecessary and could feel such messages geting in their nerves.
Me, I often ask my husband to tell me where he is, again, not because I am afraid of what he could “really” be doing, but I just want to be assured he is alright. Or I miss him and I just want to hear from him. Or I want to know if he’ll be home in 30 minutes which means I have to get dinner ready.
chesca (exskindiver):
“Or I want to know if he’ll be home in 30 minutes which means I have to get dinner ready.”
so very funny cess.
ako i only ask the question because:
a. magpapauwi ako ng KFC
b. i want to make sure that i am looking busy and not just blogging.
heeheehee.
(i am evil)
LC: hahaha! ako rin! pag malapit na siya sa kfc or mcdo near our place, i tell him to go drive thru
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18 September 2007, 10:34 ammelai:
Yeah, maybe this young man is not serious yet.
LC: oo nga, e, mukhang ok pa naman yung girlfriend. hay..
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18 September 2007, 10:55 amsoloops:
Pls. delete my earlier comment, thanks.
When all of us were still single, I used to hear my buddies complain a lot about that. I guess some gf’s can go overboard with the asking.
With us wives, it’s be expected and i’m sure our hubbies like that too, except those who are asked that question a zillion times a day. I know of someone who immediately gets irate when her pilot hubby doesn’t respond asap. In my hubby’s case, everytime there’s an accident involving aircrafts, I get crazy when he doesn’t respond asap to my “wer r u.”
re: kfc takeout–in our case, it’s ice cream and galit pa ko kapag di nahanap yung flavor na gusto ko. hehe.
LC oo nga, there are some girls na sumosobra na, makulit na. hindi pa naman ako ganon (i think.. hahaha!)
nakakatakot nga if your hubby wouldnt respond to your text pronto while he’s travelling, kahit ako siguro would get paranoid.
haha! hindi rin pala ako nag-iisa sa ice cream. pero kinakain ko rin kaht ayoko yung flavor, and i think ikaw rin
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18 September 2007, 11:40 amRowena:
Hi Cess, same pala tayo, naubos load ko naman kasi si hubby di kagad sumasagot….he he.
LC: glad to know im not alone
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18 September 2007, 2:45 pmRach:
Same here. I also text my hubby to ask where he is not out of suspicion but to check if he’s okay. I agree, it’s also paglalambing because it’s not just one text. A simple ‘where are you?’ generates an exchange of text messages which would often include ‘i miss you’, ‘hurry home’ and ‘i love you’.
LC: yes, yes! us too!
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18 September 2007, 11:15 pmbetty lopez:
On the contrary I am not the jealous type.My husband is the one always sending me messages and he hates asking me to reply. I think in a marriage you just have to trust the other person completely.
If he strays that would be his fault and not yours.
LC: i agree, betty, his fault indeed. and his loss too
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19 September 2007, 12:56 pmpepe:
my wife uses the shorter form “wru”…:-)
LC: pwede ring “san k n?”
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19 September 2007, 3:49 pmwendy:
Its been a long time when I had my last visit here in your site… busy (daw) kasi eh.
Your post mommy Cess reminds me of… anyway, erase, erase, erase!
Happy Wednesday!
Mwah!
LC: sige, kukulitin na lang kita sa susunod
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19 September 2007, 6:11 pmrHo:
isa yata ako sa mga ganyan! hahaha! lagi akong nagte-text kay hubby at good thing nagre-reply naman sya kahit nasaan pa sya. isa pa, ilang beses na nanakawan ng fon ang fafah mike kaya natatakot na ako…
LC: uy ganyan din ako. pag sobrang tagal na hindi nagre-respond, naiisip ko rin baka nga nanakawan ng cell or even worse. ikaw pala, nanakawan na talaga hubby mo.
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19 September 2007, 8:29 pmRaquel:
Hubby is the one who always called me. Pagdumating na sya sa working place, mag good night kc night shift at kung paalis na rin. I do the same way too, tinatanong ko si hubby kung paalis na ba or malapit na sya para makapag prepare magluto at….linisin ang bahay- he-he! Daming kalat na toys eh.
Best of all, trust is the key to a healthy relationship.
LC: i agree. i believe our so’s will be able to sense if our text messages are sent out of love and concern or suspicion
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20 September 2007, 8:00 ammelai:
sayang ang girlfriend kung ganon
iuntog mo ulo ni young man baka magising lol!
LC: ayoko, baka masira yung pader
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20 September 2007, 11:23 amMich:
hihihi. Ako din I would always ask my Hubby where he is especially kapag 5:15pm na and wala pa sya sa house. You see, 5pm uwian nya and his office is just 10minutes away.
LC: hehe! may grace period na 5 minutes
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20 September 2007, 3:07 pmnoemi:
I often text “Were are you?” so often that my husband anticipates it already. Even before I send that text, he
tells me already where he is. He learned that I will always be like that.
LC: oo nga e, they already know the routine. our husbands already know they ought to “report” at a certain time.
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20 September 2007, 3:34 pmjulie:
I text my husband often too: Wru? Just want to make sure he is okay. As you have said, “naglalambing lang”.
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20 September 2007, 9:56 pmauee:
I do this a lot esp when hubby’s on a late or a night shift, of course like you primary out of concern that he’s nearly home or has arrived at work safely.
To be honest, Hubby does most of that kind of the texting, again safety concerns or he’s the one who’ll want me to run some errands.
Tama ka, it’s a case to case basis. Some will definitely find it irritating if you’re bombarded by this message like every 3 or 6 hours every day.
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20 September 2007, 10:25 pmannamanila:
When I was a young wife, cell phones were light years away. When husband or son is late coming home, you just have to worry yourself to death and/or pray.
Now, there is no excuse for anyone to be incommunicado anymore. But I guess if one doesn’t want to be accessible, there will always be a way.
About that young man, he has lost interest in his girl; otherwise he would have loved her callls and text messages. He should deal with this honestly but gently. He should break up with her.
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22 September 2007, 12:48 amKongkong622:
Tama lang naman kung out of concern. I do that when my husband is running late. I have to admit that I have a fertile imagination so sometimes I can conjure up some weird images in my mind. Minsan lang naman. Kung di sumasagot agad. Otherwise, I think it’s really part of the whole “marriage” deal. Dapat lang naman maghanapan kayo. Eh sino pa ba kung di tayo rin, di ba
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23 September 2007, 8:17 pmmalaya:
I think it depends on the situation, di ba? Pero more often, nami-misinterpret ng lalaki ang ganyang attitude ng babae.
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25 September 2007, 5:16 pmChi:
despite the distance between me and my husband, we text each other a lot, asking about his (or my) whereabout, what we’re doing - even in the wee hours of the night. i’d wake up sometimes at 3am just because my husband texted to say hi. i don’t mind, at all.. actually, i do feel assured whenever i receive a message from him that he thinks of me (and gavin) as often as possible.
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27 September 2007, 12:07 am