love is blind?
My mom once told me that my husband’s walk is … kind of unusual. “Really?” I couldn’t agree with her.
 ”Pansinin mo” (Take note of it), she said.
I took a closer look at my husband’s walk, and tilted my head this way and that, but I still couldn’t see how different was his walk from my walk, or my mom’s walk, or my neighbor’s walk.
 ”I don’t see anything, ” I said.
“Meron. Namana nga ng panganay mo e ” (There is a difference. Your eldest has gotten it, too).
I asked Ipan about it, and he said that it’s true. I was flabbergasted, my eyes almost popped out from their sockets.
“My schoolmates noticed that long ago. A little like hip hop, they said. ”Â
IÂ asked if at any point in his life, he made a conscious decision to walk that way until it became second nature. “No, ” he said. “I never knew it until they told me.”
I’ve been walking with this man for almost a decade, and I never noticed he walks that way.
I guided my son’s wobbly steps, and I never noticed he walks like his dad.
Everyone knows their manner of walking is different, except me, the mother and wife.
Am I an example of love being blind? We’ve been together for so long so I guess I never noticed these things. Or I am more concerned about what they have inside of them that I tend to overlook what’s right on the surface, like how they walk.
SexyMom:
have you heard the cliche “the wife is always the last to know”? (LOL)
LC: hahahaha! naku! i’ll begin making observations na. practice makes perfect. hahaha!
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8 June 2007, 9:27 amChi:
in my opinion, not noticing the simplest things about your husband just means that you’ve grown so close to him, everything he does just seems natural to you.
LC: Whew! thanks chi!
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8 June 2007, 10:13 amJane:
I agree with Chi. It is not something to worry about. Your brain does not process it as something unusual that stands out. Mothers always have THE 6th sense, the intuition. If something was truly wrong with your kid, you would know it.
LC: aaah… got it. the reason why i never noticed is because it’s nothing. aaah… thanks jane!
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8 June 2007, 11:50 amMommyBa:
I guess balewala lang talaga sa ‘yo kung pano sya maglakad. Trivial lang yun so you didn’t bother. Besides, you’ve grown to love him for that without you knowing it.
Happy weekend, dear!
LC: hi liz. yup, youre right, i need not bother, as long as he’s walking with me and not with someone suspicious-looking, hehehe!
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8 June 2007, 12:59 pmKongkong622:
I totally agree with you..Love is blind. It goes beyond the physical. Its at that moment when you can look at your partner and not see what he looks like but still feel enormous affection..now thats love.
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8 June 2007, 3:13 pmdangkin:
love is blind nga tlaga, cess!
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8 June 2007, 6:03 pmJane:
Cess, ikaw ang naalala ko when I posted my latest blog entry (How to Fold a Shirt). Naka-dedicate sa iyo, heeheehee….
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8 June 2007, 8:40 pmjulie:
Maybe it isn’t just as important as other things that you take notice of. You just love everything about him, including the way he walks,
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8 June 2007, 10:52 pmidealpinkrose:
because you love them. at pag nagmahal tayo di natin napapansin yong mali, ang napapansin natin ay yong tama.
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8 June 2007, 11:18 pmJO:
i think that once you accepted his love, you accepted every little thing about him too. kaya para sa yo, normal lang ang lakad niya… but others may have a different opinion about it.
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9 June 2007, 4:56 amRach:
When you love someone, you learn to appreciate everything about that person. Love after all means accepting every little detail without realizing that others have a different viewpoint.
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9 June 2007, 9:04 amyorokobee:
hindi naman importante yun kaya hindi mo napapansin.
oks lang yun!
i like what RACH said…. tompak!
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9 June 2007, 2:43 pmjho:
Ok lang yun. Hindi naman siguro naging issue para kay R yung hindi mo pagpansin sa way ng paglalakad niya.
At paano mo mapapansin yun e magkasabay kayo malang lagi maglakad diba?
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9 June 2007, 9:09 pmera:
hindi naman siguro na clueless ka. baka hindi naman ganun kapansin pansin. and yeah, it’s just on the surface, why bother noticing it? hehehe.
you’re not looking for abnormalities so hindi mo napapansin yon.. at hindi importante yon di ba?
very well said, what’s still inside matters more.
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11 June 2007, 9:07 amTikey:
Ano yan te parang ung ke FPJ? ehehe
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